As a psychologist specializing in couples, you may find the following five questions insightful for assessing relationship satisfaction:

1. How often do you and your partner express gratitude toward each other? Regular expressions of gratitude can significantly enhance relationship satisfaction. Psychologists Dr. John and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, who have studied over 40,000 couples, emphasize that saying "thank you" fosters appreciation and strengthens bonds.

    

2. Do you and your partner engage in 'turning toward' each other during daily interactions? 'Turning toward' refers to acknowledging and responding to your partner's bids for connection, such as sharing an interesting article or seeking attention. Couples who frequently turn toward each other tend to have stronger, more resilient relationships.

    

3. How do you and your partner handle conflicts? Effective conflict resolution is crucial. Happy couples manage disagreements constructively, knowing when to argue and the importance of genuine apologies. They also understand that passion can be sustained through continuous emotional and physical intimacy.

    

4. Do you and your partner maintain intimacy in your relationship? Intimacy, encompassing emotional, physical, sexual, intellectual, and experiential connections, is vital. Strengthening intimacy through simple, everyday gestures, vulnerability, and open communication can lead to more fulfilling sexual experiences and a deeper connection.

    

5. How often do you and your partner check in with each other about your relationship? Regular check-ins allow partners to express their needs and feelings, fostering a sense of teamwork and mutual support. This practice helps couples stay connected and address issues proactively.

    

By reflecting on these questions, couples can identify areas for improvement and work toward a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship.